Well, it hasn't been a long road by any stretch of the imagination, but with your help, we've been able to accomplish some incredible things already.
- Grant #1 has been sent to the UC Davis Comprehensive Cancer center, where our friend Neil will receive his $1,000 rent relief check. Paying for 1.5 months of rent on his apartment in Sacramento.
- Grant #2 is being hand-delivered to Alanah and her incredible husband, DaQuan. Or, as we have gotten to know him, Q. This $1,000 grant is going directly towards paying off the loan that the Hye's had to take out in order to pay for egg preservation so that the Hye's can one day have a family of their own. For now, they have us. Below you can find a few photos that tell you everything you need to know about these two, and a beautiful message from the incredible Mrs. Alanah Hye herself.
They say a picture can say a thousand words but I don’t think a thousand words can begin to describe this photo. Just at a glance you see my husband and I embracing each other, but what isn’t told is the journey that followed that moment. The love that is seen but not really understood, to which has brought me through the coming hard days. Not too far down the road from the time this picture was taken, I was diagnosed with stage 3 colorectal cancer, and PCOS (Polycystic Ovary Syndrome) just the day before. This shattered our world and our efforts in trying for a family, a new chapter we had set our hearts and prayers on for a while.
It was such an overwhelming time to not only have been diagnosed but to also make such big decisions (financial ones too) before I could start treatment. My husband and I learned that in order for us to have any chance in having children of our own we would need to freeze my eggs. Due to the stage and type of cancer I had I would need chemotherapy and radiation, which would have harmful effects on my fertility. I cannot begin to explain the panic and distress we were in. All I could think of was, "how can we afford this?" Just think about that… I know there are others out there that are or have been in our shoes, feeling pushed into a corner of having to choose between saving your life life, or experiencing the joyous moments of getting pregnant. To me, it wasn’t fair. Something out of my control would force more money out of us if we choose to hold onto a chance. I cried and prayed for guidance and strength, over and over… and over. We weren’t ready to give up on our faith and decided to take out a loan for egg preservation. Shortly after my fertility procedure, I started my journey of cancer treatments.
My husband has been so amazing to me, even though it has effected us both in different ways. He is very driven by conflict resolution, so for him to not know how he can help really hit him hard. I honestly couldn’t have asked for anything more than what he did. He reassured all that I felt like I had lost; beauty, strength, hope, and my sense of being as a woman. Our family is thousands of miles away so we had to lean on each other even more. In that picture, my husband just returned from a long deployment. I was doing my best to be of solid support to him while he was away and he came back to do the very same for me. So, I would like to say a special ‘Thank You’ to the loved ones that may feel like they aren’t helping enough or are feeling lost. Please know that you are needed and what you’re doing is just what we need. The Love for Life Foundation has helped my husband and I work towards paying off our loan for the egg preservation. Matt and Alex have reached out in great support and love for us and we could not be more grateful!
Love and prayers to you all,
Alanah and DaQuan Hye
Beautiful words from a beautiful human. Thanks to you, we are able to help families like the Hye's, and individuals like Neil during one of the greatest challenges life has to offer.
Keep taking care of yourself, and keep the support coming. We are changing lives, together.